How to Deal With Parental Alienation or an Uncooperative Parent in Litigation

Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for custody cases to involve a parent who refuses to reasonably communicate, co-parent, and even alienate the children from the other parent. Below are some strategies to deal with parental alienation or an uncooperative parent in litigation:

  • Use discovery to obtain more information regarding the parent's allegations.
  • Request that a custody evaluation be performed.
  • Request that a Guardian Ad Litem be appointed for the minor children.
  • Request that both parents complete a comprehensive parenting course.
  • Maintain an even temper, be the more reasonable and logical parent, and keep your emotions under control. Never retaliate, thereby adding to the problem.
  • Keep a journal of key events, describing what happened and when.
  • Always show up at scheduled visitation exchanges and keep scheduled telephone visitation, even if you know your children will not be there or will not answer the phone.
  • Make the most of the time you do have with your children and never discuss the litigation with them or speak poorly of the other parent in the children's presence.
  • Do not violate any court orders and do not withhold court-ordered child support.
  • Document all communications with the other parent, whether by text, e-mail, or a recorded conversation in which you are a participant.